But how do we as Asian women deal with an overall decent, respectable guy who doesn't just like Asians, but likes us To be desired is to be fetishized...
By promoting the "creepy [white] man with Asian fetish" stereotype in public discourse, we Asian women are shooting ourselves in the foot.
We subtly reinforce that the predominant narrative of interracial dating between non-Asian men and Asian women is one of patriarchal, racist power structures, when we know that is not always the case.
It's like saying I only want to date someone who is not attracted to people that look like me. You are your lover's kink, exist within their circle of desire, starting with gender, and getting more specific from there." (emphasis added) "In fact," he says, "there's no bad reason to love a person.
A person is not less enlightened if they're only attracted to their own gender, or Asian women, or skinny people, or latex, or feet.
My friends and I often joke about this study: White guy says, "I love Asian women, you're so exotic and feminine!
" Asian girl says, "Well, at least you're not black." Ouch, touché.Our invitation only Russian Socials, Latin Socials, China Socials and Philippine Socials boast the largest Foreign women-to-men ratios in the industry, and are regarded by Foreign women as the best and most tastefully done.More media coverage than any other agency, including 60 Minutes, TIME, The Washington Post, The New York Times, MTV, Discovery Channel, and the full-length Motion Picture, Two Brothers and a Bride, A Foreign Affair (AFA).Let's be honest: We have grown up in a Western culture, with Western standards of beauty and Western ideals of romance -- which is why we value "assertiveness" at the bar in the first place.In a 2007 Columbia University study, researchers found that Asian female/white male pairings were the most common interracial coupling in America.There is a world of difference between the old, ignorant fetishist and the average guy I've met who dates Asian women.